You must accept that there is a period of experience in life that you can only go through by yourself. You will be filled with pain, then filled with loneliness, but this is growth. A good life, a happy life, does not bring growth.
Look at those 40 or 50-year-olds who are still very childish, it shows that they have never suffered. What can make you grow is something that makes you reflect, like the natural selection in the natural world. Not evolving represents destruction, but evolution is painful. No one wants to change spontaneously unless influenced by external factors. Only when forced, will people progress and grow, so growth is never joyful.
If you are constantly unhappy, it means you are growing. If you feel anxious, under pressure, it means your expectations are too high. Learn to accept, understand yourself, you may feel lonely, but in the future, you will stand out.
Recorded on November 21, 2023.